HNT 2.12: In Profile

26 11 2009

This is what happens when I tell X to take HNT photos for me.

I didn’t give him any direction, so he did what he does best: Microphotography. (Or at least that’s what I THINK he does…..maybe……haha) I think the effect is pretty damn cool myself. :D





Squirting Vaginas Turn Me On!!

24 11 2009

Do squirting vaginas freak you out?

Do you like bashing something under the guise of ‘thought-provoking, against the grain prose’? Then The Kinky Jew’s article on why exactly women should be ashamed of squirting is for you.

Now, I promise to keep myself from getting nasty, because well, I do understand that sometimes the best of intentions can get distorted. I also understand that sarcasm and humor can be VERY hard to express via text online.

However, that doesn’t provide and excuse for turning an opinion article into something that is intended to shame women into feeling like squirting is wrong.

The Kinky Jew (KJ) says that when women “ejaculate from their vaginas, they fucking gush buckets! 1. I don’t entirely see how that’s sanitary, nor how you can really clean up after an event like that, and 2. I’m sorry… EW. Why is this desirable?” Sanitary? It’s no less sanitary than cum or saliva.  And you clean up just like you’d clean up after really messy non-squirting sex. And it’s desirable just like some men find cumming on a woman’s face desirable or some women find anal desirable. It’s not some freak thing.

I understand that some people don’t get squirting. But that doesn’t give you a right to utterly bash something in a way that could shame women into thinking a normal bodily function is disgusting.

Now, to give her credit, KJ does have one glimpse of tolerance: “Look, I don’t mean to get down on women and how we orgasm. Sex should be great, and you should enjoy it, and it should lead you to your happy place, whatever that may look or sound like. I guess I’m just really confused as to why squirting is suddenly popular and desirable.” It’s okay to be confused and not understand why something is popular. Foot worship is not something I find sexy or even interesting. I am confused as to why there is a large population that likes it. But I don’t presume to understand something I’ve never tried. I just shrug and go about my day and if someone wants to enlighten me? Cool! I’d love to hear someone’s perspective on it. And I don’t ask ‘”Does it turn you on? If so, dear G-D… why?”

The KJ makes squirting into something weird and odd that only porn stars and freaks do. And that, my friends, is wrong. Squirting is not weird. Or odd. Or gross. It’s NORMAL.

Just like some women can orgasm from nipple stimulation alone, some women can squirt. It’s NOT A BIG FUCKING DEAL. It’s not gross or ANYTHING to be ashamed of, it’s not something you should worry about. If you gush, you gush. If you shoot across the room so fucking be it! Embrace that. Ignore the nay sayers who think its gross.

Squirting orgasms can be extremely intense in their own sort of way, and someone who obviously is ashamed of her own body shouldn’t presume to understand if she’s never tried.

I suppose my biggest issue with all this is that The Kinky Jew’s post is being touted as an ‘opinion piece that goes against the norm’ yet those that are offended are called sheep for voicing opinions of their own. I can have opinions but I have to ensure that they come off as opinions not as preaching. The Kinky Jew comes off as preaching about something she doesn’t understand or has yet to experience.

We don’t need anymore people telling women that our bodies are gross and unsanitary!! We’ve had enough of that through the ages! Isn’t that part of feminism? Dispelling shame for natural things like sex and all things, messy or not, related to it? Women need to support each other. Blatant bashing of a natural bodily function is no better than the oppression women have already experienced under men and society for generations.

Now, on a positive note: I vote we send The Kinky Jew a Purewand and see if she changes her mind! :D

[Oh. And my opinions here make me a sheep according to Toywithme.com. Oh really? Well then, BaaFuckingBaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.]





An Open Letter to The Kinky Jew on Bisexuality

24 11 2009

I encountered the Kinky Jew’s post on sexuality a few weeks ago.

It coincided with a project for my Gender Roles class. I was writing a personal essay on my experiences with coming out as bisexual and the negative stereotypes I have encountered on a regular basis since then. Someone actually recommended the article to me. I had put a tweet out asking: “Can you be still be considered bisexual yet never date or fuck your same gender?” as a means to do a little research for my paper. And someone responded telling me that they had just discussed this and the post was linked to me. I honestly was appalled at what I read. On a blog I considered to be a fairly well known, respected blog I found an article that played into nearly every single negative stereotype I was writing about in my paper. I left a long comment that I wrote while fairly emotional but the author never responded to what I said. So I’m going to take my comment and build on it.

This is an open letter to the Kinky Jew. I hope she reads it. If she doesn’t then I’m still getting my message out regardless.


OPEN LETTER

“I’ll give you a few points, KInky Jew, Katy-Perry-I-Kissed-A-Girl Bisexuals and people who do it for the attention really do give true bisexuals a bad name. Your article is very strong proof of the negative effects of those people. You are doing nothing more than playing into the awful stereotype that people’s definitions of their own sexuality are arbitrary. You’re telling anyone who is reading that people who don’t want to have a ‘love based relationship’ with the same sex are not truly bisexual. They’re just sluts.

Hmm. WHAT?! Did I hear that right? Slut? I don’t really have any desire to end up with a woman as a life partner so I’m just a slut? My sexuality is fake and false? Again. HMM, WHAT?!?

I’ll be awesome and I’ll stand up and shout it from the roof tops: “I’m very sexually attracted to women but I’m not sure if I could ever see myself in a loving, sexual relationship with another woman, especially a long term relationship.” Does that make me any less bisexual? No. Not in the least. Does it make me a slut? Not at all. Now don’t get me wrong, I fully embrace my sluttiness, I LOVE my inner slut and I have no issues letting her free. But my personal identification with being bisexual and my ability to embrace being a slut have nothing to do with one another.

My biggest beef with your article is the fact that you tell people if they can picture themselves in a ‘loving, sexual relationship with either gender’ then YAY you get a ‘get out of jail free card’. YOU are the one true breed of bisexual! And honestly? That’s utter bullshit.

‘Loving’ and ’sexual’ are not, by any means, mutually exclusive terms. Love and sex do not come hand in hand. Yes. I can see myself having a sexual relationship with another woman; one that involves a certain level of friendship and trust. But love? What’s that got to do with it? I honestly have issues with the love bit. I’m not sure I have the ability to fall in love with another woman. I highly doubt I could marry another woman and start a family. Does that make me a ‘fake bisexual’? Even though I’m honest to god physically attracted to women and have been since I was about 10? According to your article? Yup. I’m a faker. I’m just a slut who’s abusing the term ‘bisexual’.

So, I just have to ignore the fact that I’ve always been drawn to boobs and pictures of girls?Ignore that I prefer lesbian porn over straight porn 85-90% of the time? And ignore that I check women out far more than I check out men? According to your article? Yeah. My bisexuality is based more in my ability to have a ‘loving relationship’ than my base attraction to another gender.

Now, I understand this is supposed to be an article that is intended to empower women/people to stop considering themselves bi if they’re simply open to trying new things and instead embrace the word slut. That’s a really great message. And I support that strongly because I believe in similar ideas. Though your idea of ’slut’ is a lot closer to ‘Nympho’: “That’s OK. I’ve totally had those nights where all you can think is, “does it have a pulse? Is it human and over the age of 18? GAME ON!

However, in the course of writing this article, you did alienate a group of people. You discriminated against and played into negative stereotypes about true bisexuals. You ignored that bisexuals fit into more than two categories. Loving relationship wanting on one end, and doing it for attention on the other end. There is no happy median according to you. There is no ‘I think women are gorgeous, as are men. And I’d like to sleep with and do terrible things to BOTH,’ category.

You say: “Being comfortable enough to accept your sexuality as you are can mean doing everything under the sun, or just being self-aware enough to know what you like, and stick to it. Don’t let the media influence you into redefining who you are, but be honest about whoever that is.” What a mixed message you are sending. Through your whole article you contradict this statement. It’s NOT okay to accept your sexuality if it doesn’t fall into predefined categories that exist BECAUSE of societal influence or because that’s how you personally view the world. Sexism isn’t the right word, sexual-orientation-ism maybe? Bisexuals ALL are like this. And those that don’t fit that mold are fake. Hmm…..

At the time I commented on your post, I was currently writing a paper on my own personal experiences with coming out as bisexual and the negative stereotypes I’ve encountered since then.

The best way to explain the absurdity in this negative stereotype is this: If someone who is heterosexual or homosexual doesn’t want to be in a relationship and instead chooses to sleep around or even just kiss and fool around, be it with one casual partner or twenty, they’re not called out for pretending to be heterosexual or pretending to be homosexual. They’re just sluts (be it positive or negative connotations of the word). Why is it when a bisexual doesn’t want to be in a relationship with someone does their base sexual orientation get called into question? Why can’t we just be considered sluts and move on? Why must our orientation be called fake and false? Why do we have to endure being told we’re just pretending or we’re just trying to get attention?

Sexual orientation is NOT based in a person’s desire for a relationship. It’s based upon who they are attracted to. Many people agreed with me on Twitter than you can be bisexual yet never sleep with someone of another sex. Just like many men and women identify as straight before they ever have their first sexual experience. Just like someone who identifies as asexual is still capable of having a relationship with another person.

You need to make sure that you express that these are your opinions. Because your tone implies that you’re a sex blogger with a an authority on what being bisexual is and means while your opinions clearly show you don’t have a full grasp of it.

It saddens me that bisexuals get the same negative stereotypes thrown at them from both sides of the spectrum. And it’s sad that an article that I’m sure was intended to be positive, ended up offending me and just reenforcing negative stereotypes about bisexuals. Again, I’m sure you did not intend to offend. I simply felt that some things needed to be said in regards to what was said in the article.

-Z “

[These are simply my opinions and aren't necessarily representative of the bisexual community as a whole.]





HNT 2.11: Post-Sex

18 11 2009

I kind of think the title of the photo sort of explains everything…..

HHNT everyone!!





Oh Wow!

12 11 2009

I must say I’m quite delighted and surprised to be included on this year’s list.

When I started this blog just over a year ago, I never thought anything would really come of it. I didn’t think anyone would really even read it! But apparently people do read it. And they like what they read because I was ranked #24 on this year’s ‘Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2009.‘!

I’d just like to thank everyone who comes here and reads my ramblings, comments and emails. I wish more people, who I KNOW lurk about, would comment and email. It usually makes my day. :)

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And now, without further ado, the Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2009:

  1. Coquitten (website)
  2. Alexa (website)
  3. AAG (website)
  4. Bad, Bad Girl (website)
  5. TBK (website)
  6. Mistress Matisse (website)
  7. Miss Mia (website)
  8. Thursday’s Child (website)
  9. Roger (website)
  10. Sinclair (website)
  11. Sylvanus…
  12. and Mina (website)
  13. Natt Nightly (website)
  14. Jake (website)
  15. Lyn (website)
  16. Adriana Ravenlust (website)
  17. Sexy Sadie (website)
  18. Shay (website)
  19. Lilly (website)
  20. Nadia (website)
  21. Joan Price (website)
  22. Madison (website)
  23. Anal Amy (website)
  24. Z (website)
  25. Essin Em (website)
  26. Easily Aroused (website)
  27. Blacksilk (website)
  28. Sleeping Dreamer (website)
  29. Melen…
  30. and rayne…
  31. and Master KKT…
  32. and cinnamon (website)
  33. That Toy Chick (website)
  34. Red (website)
  35. Tom Allen (website)
  36. Vix (website)
  37. Coy Pink (website)
  38. Lady Pandorah (website)
  39. BackseatBoohoo (website)
  40. Epiphora (website)
  41. Aurore (website)
  42. Miss KissThis (website)
  43. Storm (website)
  44. Ron Jazz (website)
  45. Josie Jacobs (website)
  46. Distracted (website)
  47. Deviant Dyke (website)
  48. Joanna Cake (website)
  49. Sapphire Jay (website)
  50. Sarah (website)
  51. Kimberly (website)
  52. Duchess (website)
  53. Figleaf (website)
  54. The Caged Songbird (website)
  55. Kaya (website)
  56. Ms. Justine (website)
  57. Luka (website)
  58. Ang (website)
  59. Perverted Negress (website)
  60. Harlot (website)
  61. Vixen (website)
  62. Anakan…
  63. and Padme (website)
  64. Wilhemina (website)
  65. Axe (website)
  66. Amber (website)
  67. Lucy Vonne (website)
  68. Rogue (website)
  69. SSS (website)
  70. Kyle (website)
  71. Amorous Rocker (website)
  72. Sera (website)
  73. Lolita Wolf (website)
  74. Elle (website)
  75. Scarlet St Syr (website)
  76. Charlotte Thorpe (website)
  77. An Unassuming Girl (website)
  78. Maymay (website)
  79. True Pleasure (website)
  80. Bad Influence Girl (website)
  81. Diva (website)
  82. Raven Quince (website)
  83. Autumn (website)
  84. Vanilla Impaired (website)
  85. Wil (website)
  86. Robin (website)
  87. Panthera Pardus (website)
  88. Ell (website)
  89. Miss Communication…
  90. and Captain Pants…
  91. and A.E. (website)
  92. Roxy (website)
  93. Secretly Naughty (website)
  94. Abby Williams (website)
  95. Subheart (website)
  96. Sequoia Redd (website)
  97. Innocent Loveboy (website)
  98. Liljgrrl…
  99. and Nawa*G (website)
  100. YOU! As always that last person on the list is you. Please, please, please leave a comment below promoting your own blog (or the blog of someone you love). Links are welcome, as long as they lead us to a sex-related blog, not a retail website or porn aggregation site.




HNT 2.10: Sunshine on my Window

12 11 2009

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“Sunshine on my window,make me happy like I
should be”- ‘Calypso’ Spiderbait

I took this photo on a random spur of the moment a few weeks ago. It was a Sunday afternoon and I had just finished doing my laundry. I was putting my sheets back on my my bed and the late afternoon sunlight drifting though my window looked so warm and inviting. Even as a child I loved to cat nap in the spots of sun that came through the windows.

Instead of napping that afternoon, I grabbed my camera and stripped down to take some photos. As you can see, the lighting was absolutely perfect. Just looking at it now makes me yawn and yearn to go take a nice, warm nap. Alas, I’m stuck in the library doing homework.

Hope you all enjoy my photo for this week! Go head over to Osbasso’s and check out everyone else who participated. HHNT!!