Comments on: It’s MY life. http://phaedrafallen.com/2010/02/04/its-my-life/ Sexploits of a Morally Questionable College Student Tue, 09 Feb 2010 15:51:37 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: X http://phaedrafallen.com/2010/02/04/its-my-life/#comment-1567 X Sun, 07 Feb 2010 21:19:19 +0000 http://phaedrafallen.com/?p=1102#comment-1567 Z, I was there when you got that comment, I was there when you got more angry and upset about it than I have seen you get in a long, long time, and I think you handled it wonderfully here. To the person who made that comment to her, let me tell you that you are lucky Z was the one who responded to what you said and not me. Z, I was there when you got that comment, I was there when you got more angry and upset about it than I have seen you get in a long, long time, and I think you handled it wonderfully here. To the person who made that comment to her, let me tell you that you are lucky Z was the one who responded to what you said and not me.

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By: Secret Things http://phaedrafallen.com/2010/02/04/its-my-life/#comment-1566 Secret Things Fri, 05 Feb 2010 23:11:04 +0000 http://phaedrafallen.com/?p=1102#comment-1566 Let me join the chorus of folks saying: Good for you! Comments are a fine place to express all sorts of thoughts and opinions, but should not be a place to tell you what to post or not to post. Let me join the chorus of folks saying: Good for you!
Comments are a fine place to express all sorts of thoughts and opinions, but should not be a place to tell you what to post or not to post.

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By: Britni TheVadgeWig http://phaedrafallen.com/2010/02/04/its-my-life/#comment-1565 Britni TheVadgeWig Fri, 05 Feb 2010 10:47:31 +0000 http://phaedrafallen.com/?p=1102#comment-1565 Good for you for speaking your mind. If people continue to post rude and unnecessary shit in the future, I say just delete it, or do away with anonymous comments. Like you said, it's YOUR life and YOUR blog. Do what you want with it <3 Good for you for speaking your mind. If people continue to post rude and unnecessary shit in the future, I say just delete it, or do away with anonymous comments. Like you said, it’s YOUR life and YOUR blog. Do what you want with it <3

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By: Z http://phaedrafallen.com/2010/02/04/its-my-life/#comment-1564 Z Fri, 05 Feb 2010 05:03:35 +0000 http://phaedrafallen.com/?p=1102#comment-1564 I posted it because it was related to sex and it was a feeling I'm sure many people have felt or could relate to. My blog isn't just about providing people with dirty material to jerk off to. And I actually waited two days after I wrote it to make sure it wasn't something I would regret posting. Also, I've never said I'm opposed in the least to advice, opinions, feedback and discussion. I think you misread this post and mushed everything I said together. I said that I did not want advice on THAT POST/THAT SITUATION. Not overall. I was having a bad week and I wrote about what was bothering me. Two days later, things aren't quite the same as they were. Thus me saying that the post was 'how I felt at a moment in time.' Since that moment was passed, advice would have been useless. That was all I was trying to convey. My overall beef is with people not satisfied when I say: 'This is the gist of what happened. This is the basics of what's going on right now. But I don't want to discuss the nitty gritty because it's very personal.' All I'm trying to say in this post is that I should not be getting mean comments from people who feel entitled to know personal information I'm not comfortable sharing with the internet. I posted it because it was related to sex and it was a feeling I’m sure many people have felt or could relate to. My blog isn’t just about providing people with dirty material to jerk off to. And I actually waited two days after I wrote it to make sure it wasn’t something I would regret posting.

Also, I’ve never said I’m opposed in the least to advice, opinions, feedback and discussion. I think you misread this post and mushed everything I said together. I said that I did not want advice on THAT POST/THAT SITUATION. Not overall. I was having a bad week and I wrote about what was bothering me. Two days later, things aren’t quite the same as they were. Thus me saying that the post was ‘how I felt at a moment in time.’ Since that moment was passed, advice would have been useless. That was all I was trying to convey.

My overall beef is with people not satisfied when I say: ‘This is the gist of what happened. This is the basics of what’s going on right now. But I don’t want to discuss the nitty gritty because it’s very personal.’ All I’m trying to say in this post is that I should not be getting mean comments from people who feel entitled to know personal information I’m not comfortable sharing with the internet.

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By: John http://phaedrafallen.com/2010/02/04/its-my-life/#comment-1563 John Fri, 05 Feb 2010 03:56:29 +0000 http://phaedrafallen.com/?p=1102#comment-1563 While I can understand a need to vent, why post something on a blog when you want no advice, opinions, feedback and don't want to talk about it at all? Why post it? If you just needed to get it out, you could have wrote in a notepad. Wrote in microsoft word or some other such program. Hell, done it here and left it as a draft or posted it and disabled the comments. Posting about your private life is going to have some people poking their nose where it doesn't belong. Seems to me if you didnt want to talk about it & only needed to vent, an email to a friend or two (blog buddies or otherwise) would have done just fine and not caused any drama. Post what you want. Ignore what you want. Do whatever you want. Your blog, your life, you have the control. But dont expect that people wont ever poke, pry or be a dick about whatever you post. While I can understand a need to vent, why post something on a blog when you want no advice, opinions, feedback and don’t want to talk about it at all? Why post it? If you just needed to get it out, you could have wrote in a notepad. Wrote in microsoft word or some other such program. Hell, done it here and left it as a draft or posted it and disabled the comments.

Posting about your private life is going to have some people poking their nose where it doesn’t belong. Seems to me if you didnt want to talk about it & only needed to vent, an email to a friend or two (blog buddies or otherwise) would have done just fine and not caused any drama.

Post what you want. Ignore what you want. Do whatever you want. Your blog, your life, you have the control. But dont expect that people wont ever poke, pry or be a dick about whatever you post.

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By: Z http://phaedrafallen.com/2010/02/04/its-my-life/#comment-1562 Z Fri, 05 Feb 2010 01:12:52 +0000 http://phaedrafallen.com/?p=1102#comment-1562 Thank you. I mean that honestly. It's comments like yours that make up for comments like the one this post was spurred on by. <3 Thank you. I mean that honestly. It’s comments like yours that make up for comments like the one this post was spurred on by.

<3

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By: Z http://phaedrafallen.com/2010/02/04/its-my-life/#comment-1561 Z Fri, 05 Feb 2010 01:11:24 +0000 http://phaedrafallen.com/?p=1102#comment-1561 That's a good way to put it, a 'warped compliment.' :) I like that. I personally think that people hide behind the anonymity that the internet provides. That's not always a bad thing. However, it lets people say mean things they'd never typically say to some they actually knew. Sort of a 'It's over the internet, who cares if I tell this person how awful they are!? They don't know who the hell I am!!' thing. Hugs. That’s a good way to put it, a ‘warped compliment.’ :) I like that. I personally think that people hide behind the anonymity that the internet provides. That’s not always a bad thing. However, it lets people say mean things they’d never typically say to some they actually knew. Sort of a ‘It’s over the internet, who cares if I tell this person how awful they are!? They don’t know who the hell I am!!’ thing.

Hugs.

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By: Z http://phaedrafallen.com/2010/02/04/its-my-life/#comment-1560 Z Fri, 05 Feb 2010 01:07:24 +0000 http://phaedrafallen.com/?p=1102#comment-1560 If I ever get apologetic for writing what I feel like writing on my own blog it's more than likely intended to be a sarcastic apology. Hahaha. I don't see the point in letting people dictate what they think should be on my blog. If I ever get apologetic for writing what I feel like writing on my own blog it’s more than likely intended to be a sarcastic apology. Hahaha. I don’t see the point in letting people dictate what they think should be on my blog.

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By: Nick http://phaedrafallen.com/2010/02/04/its-my-life/#comment-1559 Nick Thu, 04 Feb 2010 23:50:01 +0000 http://phaedrafallen.com/?p=1102#comment-1559 I'm sorry but I couldn't let this go by without throwing in a whisper on behalf of the happy lurkers out there. Your blog is fantastic, I love reading it because your refreshing openness is a wonderful breath of air through the usual vacuum of reality in most descriptions of sex. By that I mean emotionally sanitised, all too mechanical and seeming to happen in an unreal world. When you let it go and give us a bit of context it seems to make it all more meaningful. As far as I know there are only a few of your peers who are similarly honest. Huge respect to you all. For the (slightly less) silent majority, please don't let this/these fuckwits spoil what you do and enjoy. Thank you! X I’m sorry but I couldn’t let this go by without throwing in a whisper on behalf of the happy lurkers out there. Your blog is fantastic, I love reading it because your refreshing openness is a wonderful breath of air through the usual vacuum of reality in most descriptions of sex. By that I mean emotionally sanitised, all too mechanical and seeming to happen in an unreal world. When you let it go and give us a bit of context it seems to make it all more meaningful. As far as I know there are only a few of your peers who are similarly honest. Huge respect to you all.

For the (slightly less) silent majority, please don’t let this/these fuckwits spoil what you do and enjoy.

Thank you!
X

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By: Amy http://phaedrafallen.com/2010/02/04/its-my-life/#comment-1558 Amy Thu, 04 Feb 2010 23:10:04 +0000 http://phaedrafallen.com/?p=1102#comment-1558 I'm sorry you got upset about this girly. I don't understand why anyone would ever leave nasty comments, especially to you! You're right, it's your blog and you can post (or not post) whatever the damn well you please! I hate that when you did post about your personal life you got all that hate, no one gets to judge you - I'm sure you'll agree that people having different opinions to you is one thing but insulting you right out? Grrrr.... I guess you could think of it as a warped compliment - you inspire a strong enough reaction to provoke mean comments. Hmmm maybe that's not so comforting *big hugs* xxxxxxx I’m sorry you got upset about this girly. I don’t understand why anyone would ever leave nasty comments, especially to you! You’re right, it’s your blog and you can post (or not post) whatever the damn well you please! I hate that when you did post about your personal life you got all that hate, no one gets to judge you – I’m sure you’ll agree that people having different opinions to you is one thing but insulting you right out? Grrrr…. I guess you could think of it as a warped compliment – you inspire a strong enough reaction to provoke mean comments. Hmmm maybe that’s not so comforting
*big hugs*
xxxxxxx

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